HBO’s Girls premiered last Sunday and already, there’s a lot of criticism, ranging from the usual “lack of diversity” to the whole idea that having one’s parents support them well after they’re 18 not being “realistic.” Sure, this is the case for many, but one also can’t say that it’s UNREALISTIC to be an adult and still get at least some family support (ranging from money to living at home rent free). Especially not for 20-somethings living in an expensive city like New York (or even Toronto) in a difficult job market. And getting support isn’t all that unique only to the millennial generation. I think that it just seems like more millennials are getting support due to press, the current economic situation AND perhaps because parents feel guilty about not being around much when the millennials were younger (and that final point is a very big MAYBE). There are also reasons why some aren’t getting any job they can find.
Preview of the second episode
I feel that haters of the show fall in one of two categories. Those who are jealous of young people in this kind of situation are apparently living and those who feel guilty or embarrassed by the very fact that they are. I know the latter well. These people don’t talk much about their families and situation to those around them and often pretend to be broke, yet they are probably getting at least a few hundred dollars a month from their parents to help cover the rent. As for those who’re jealous, just admit it rather than going around saying that it’s “not realistic.” What’s “real” is relative. At least they’re not living with their parents (which I think is worse unless the parents don’t care/pretend not to care about what they do).
As for not getting a job at, say, McDonald’s, I think losing face, despite not explicitly part of western culture, plays a role. That’s probably why many would rather have an unpaid/very low paying office position while mooching off family than work at a fast food joint. It’s about “looking good” to your peers and maybe family (other than mom and dad) since it’s all about WHERE you’re working (i.e. NOT McDonald’s – though being a barista at Starbucks or the more preferred indie cafe might be okay). But that could just be the Chinese influence in me thinking.
Have you seen the show? What are your thoughts? Do you think it’s jealousy? And if you’re an adult still getting help from your parents, are you guilty/embarrassed about it?
